Your Inactions Are Showing!

I was just reading an article today about whether or not a guy will really marry a girl or not.
This has me internally laughing, because it didnt mention the most important part of this issue:
INACTION

If the guy isnt making any moves or developments, whether its just a standard stall technique, or if he is completely inactive on anything that helps the progression of the relationship, then you have your answer!

I have noticed that men are social creatures to a certain extent. Not all of them are going to get struck by the "settle down and breed" bug, some are just completely ok with going the bee route (flower to flower) and not sticking to any one person after a certain amount of time.
And not to say that there's anything wrong, because some women are the same way.

The point is that their inactions sometimes speak louder than any other actions or tactics mentioned in the above linked article.

Beautiful Day

Today I went to the Museum of Natural History with my mom. I know! Here I am, 29 years old, and going to the museum with my fabulous 50+ mom lol
But it was a good day! Hell, it was a great day!
The weather was really nice, the sun didnt blind me, but the cold didnt make me shiver.
I took photos, ooh'd and aah'd at things I've seen about a dozen or so times as a kid, and just recently as early this month. Since my mom hadnt been to the museum in years, it was all kind of new again for her.

After milling around a bit thru the dinosaurs, mineral samples, native expedition trips and animals stuffed into dioramas, we took a short walk to the local street fair.
Checked out some jewelry, rugs and stuff. Next we went to Shake Shack (which was like heaven in upper west for me!) and had a burger and fries.

Next stop was to William Sonoma which, lets face it, anyone who knows me, knows I love baking! is like a candy shop for me! I got a new set of mixing bowls, glass, and they were a bargain!

Went home after that, and logged in to work, but that didnt get me down.
My workload wasnt as heavy/tainted as normal, so I think this was overall a beautiful day :)
Even now, its at the end, and I am still smiling

Faith is a Funny Thing...

For ever one belief, there is a counter belief

I find that this is more true when religion is brought into play
But belief does not always need to be associated with religion
It is just a matter of faith
Faith in oneself
Faith in others
Faith in a higher power
Faith in knowing
Faith in not knowing
Faith in Faith

There are so many tihngs to believe and believe in, no matter what the reason or cause
And when someone has a 'crisis of faith' it could mean alot of things


Last night, I had a crisis of belief, not in anything religious, or even personal
I remembered why I do not like to go "out" into social situations where there is drinking
I dont drink, but I do not push my beliefs on others, as I would not wish them to put themselves upon me
I was talking to someone who mocked me, openly, for the first time in ages
Now I am one who can take it as well as dish it, but here was a complete stranger, without knowing my reasoning or caring, talking down on my personal preference
Had he simply walked away, it would have been no problem
As it was, he proceded to go on about the pros of recreational drinking
To which I replied "IF that is what you belief, that is fine. I do not choose to believe that for my own personal reasons. I respect your choice"
But this did not sit well with this person, who refused to just agree to disagree
At that point, I was forced to walk away before losing my personal restraint.
But it was a solid reminder...

My faith held me, and particularly my fists, in check
This is funny to me, because as of late, Ive found myself in situations where I have not hesitated to tell someone what was exactly on my mind
But I took the high road... Not to say I havent in the past but it was just a quick reminder

He Who Must Not Be Named

I notice that there is a trend...
That there is always someone who 'must not be named" because of one reason or another
And I find this to be true of life in general

Take for example that in all things related to people and relationships, whether friendships, romances or just random chance encounters, there are one of three emotions that can be associated with the connections formed with new acquaintances:

Positive
Ambiguous
Negative

In the positive category, we are always quick to name those things that make the associated relation (friend, lover, relative, kind stranger, etc) based on their traits and characteristics, if not in name alone

In the ambiguous category, we neither feel extremes of either positive or negative influences in our opinions, or at least not enough to sway our stance in most cases. Should that change, however, then a person placed originally in the ambiguous category gets moved to one of the other two.

And then we have the negative, which always inspires more names than one would like to ever admit uttering in most cases. Yet, simply, we tend to remove the name of those who have been placed in this category, not out of fear, but perhaps regret...sadness...pain...

I have my own list of nameless, who shall remain so...
Yet these nameless are not all negatively influenced...ok, 99% are, but that 1% that is in this category, who began as an ambiguous anonymity...and remains this way... they will not go named as a reminder...
All the rest are nameless to me and me alone. Their names have no power or currency here.